Why do some public figures feel “off”?
I spent time interrogating my unease with these 15 well-known voices and I hope my conclusions help you understand your own unease too.
They sound smart. They seem trustworthy. I like most of them. But something in my nervous system twitches when I hear them.
I think they are hiding a level of 'incoherence' or 'misalignment' behind their personas (like nearly all of us do!). This is not to cancel or tear down.
This is to bring clarity so you can finally trust what your gut is already telling you but can't quite say out loud.
1. Jordan Peterson
“He says what I’m thinking… but why does he sound like he’s about to snap?”
What’s really happening: His words are sharp but his energy is chaotic. His voice carries grief, fear, rage...all tightly packed into a box I'd label 'controlled'. I don’t feel safe. I feel pulled in.
Why it’s happening: He’s brilliant, but unintegrated. Still at war with chaos inside and out. His intellect got strong but his nervous system stayed fractured. So his message usually lands, but his body never does.
2. Sam Harris
“He sounds calm… but why do I feel emotionally dehydrated after listening to him?”
What’s really happening: Sam’s logic seems pristine, but his presence is cold. There’s no felt 'self' behind the words. Just control. His calm isn’t peace; it’s absence.
Why it’s happening: Sam built his identity on reason so emotion, ambiguity, and even awe must feel like threats to him. He didn’t conquer his ego, he just silenced it! And with it, the ability to feel.
3. Brené Brown
“She speaks so much about vulnerability… but why does it feel rehearsed and...invulnerable?”
What’s really happening: Her words invite me in. But her body doesn’t. There’s tension under the TED talk tone. Her nervous system is performing openness, not inhabiting it!
Why it’s happening: Brene built a brand on being 'real'. But the pressure to stay relatable must have made her package it. Her message says 'real' but the signal is braced and my body knows it. It doesn't believe her.
4. Oprah Winfrey
“She feels warm and wise… but something in her always pulls back at the edge of real truth.”
What’s really happening: Oprah radiates presence until things get too raw. Then she pivots, comforts, reframes. The warmth is real. But it’s filtered.
Why it’s happening: She became America’s emotional anchor and couldn’t afford to fall apart. She learned to manage truth in a way that kept everyone safe, including herself. Her weight struggles became part of the public narrative, and I say this as someone who’s done the same (explored my weight struggles on camera). But you can feel it: the glow is part healing… and part performance.
Like many of us, she got trapped playing the person she hoped to become (and ultimately found resolution in semaglutides - Ozempic etc).
5. Russell Brand
“He sounds enlightened… but why does it feel like chaos dressed in poetry?”
What’s really happening: He speaks fluently about presence, ego death, higher self but his energy is frantic. There’s no still point. His words expand, but never, ever settle.
Why it’s happening: Russell replaced addiction with spiritual performance. I think he means it. But his nervous system is still sprinting. The mask now says “guru” instead of “comedian” but it’s still a mask!
6. Jay Shetty
“It all sounds right… but why does it feel like a TED Talk married a shampoo ad?”
What’s really happening: His content is smooth, polished, predictable. The advice lands but it never lingers. You forget it the moment it ends.
Why it’s happening: Jay reverse-engineered wisdom into a content strategy. It’s all aesthetic, no weight. His brand isn’t false, it's just empty. Spiritual fast food: warm, digestible, forgettable!
7. Douglas Murray
“He’s making a brilliant point… but why does it feel like he’s holding back a breakdown he doesn’t even know he’s having?”
What’s really happening: He speaks about grief, loss, and the madness of the modern world with surgical clarity but you don’t feel it land. His voice is calm. His face is calm. But my body tenses up. Like he’s walking me through the ruins of something he doesn't really care about anyway.
Why it’s happening: He was trained to debate, not feel. Probably from a young age (UK boarding school). So now he channels emotion through eloquence instead of presence.
It’s not fake, it’s just sealed with industrial grade sealer from Bunnings. His coherence is intellectual. His grief is managed. I hear the echo of someone who made himself too composed to collapse.
8. Simon Sinek
“It’s motivating… but why do I feel like I just got pitched a leadership cult?”
What’s really happening: Simon simplifies everything into digestible frameworks. Which works until you try to live it. The ideas are clear. But the depth isn’t there.
Why it’s happening: His gift is packaging insight into a frame, not embodying it. Wisdom turned into slogan. Sure, Start With fucking Why.
Brilliant. Valid. But does everything have to be a slogan or a framework?
9. James Lindsay
“He makes sense but why do I feel like I’m being shouted at even when he’s right?”
What’s really happening: James was once calmly brutal. Lately, he’s just brutal. The coherence is fraying. The signal feels more like a siren now.
Why it’s happening: He built himself as a watchdog for ideology. One of the most important voices I've ever heard. But now everything looks like a threat. Everything. And when that’s your frame, coherence collapses into combat. Even his nervous system seems tired of fighting.

“He’s calm. He’s kind. But why does it feel like he’s not quite in the room?”





Keanu Reeves

What’s really happening: Keanu isn’t trying to win me over. He doesn’t sell insight. He doesn’t posture. His nervous system is slow, his tone is level. Nothing in him scrambles for my attention.
Why it works: He’s not performing peace. He IS at peace (unless you kill his dog!). I feel him not because he’s loud, but because he doesn’t leak. No twitch. No pretend. No spin. Just a man who’s not running from himself.
“He says wild stuff sometimes… but I never feel manipulated.”
What’s really happening: Joe doesn’t flinch. He’s grounded, open, and not trying to impress anyone. I might roll my eyes sometimes but my body never tenses. There’s no trick in it. And he's real.
Why it works: He built a life that matches his system. Sauna, elk, weirdos, DMT...it’s all real for him. He’s not pretending to be deep, and that honesty, even if shallow, is a clean, cohered signal that puts me at ease.
Brett Weinstein
“Even when he's wrong or ludicrous (remember the bandana masks?)…I never feel the need to armor up when he talks.”
What’s really happening: Brett brings steadiness. Even in tense territory. His thinking is complex but his tone is clear. No seduction. No scramble. Just a man doing the work out loud. The opposite of his brilliant brother Eric who makes me feel untethered.
Why it works: He’s coherent. Not because he’s always right, but because he’s not pretending to be more right than he is. You’re not being pulled into his orbit. You’re being invited to look where he’s looking and make up your own mind.